Has there ever been a time when you and your partner were getting intimate and you just couldn’t seem to get in the mood? Don’t worry, having a fluctuating sex drive can be quite a common thing. According to sex expert and tantra practitioner, Steffo Shambo, it happens to everyone at some point in their lives and there are some ways to combat it.
The first thing that you need to is identify is whether anything has changed in yours or your partner’s life recently that could be affecting your libido. Most of the time, a low sex drive can be accredited to changes in one’s lifestyle. So, it’s best at this stage to ask yourself if anything has altered in your life recently.
Once you’ve identified the main reason you’re having trouble in the bedroom, you should make sure to address this with your partner. Being honest with your partner will allow them to support you through the issue rather than getting more agitated with you about the fact that you aren’t able to be intimate with them anymore. If you truly love each other, this is something both of you will need to get through together in order to reach the level of orgasmic energy you once had.
Reasons why you could have a low libido:
1. Stress
Have you been feeling overwhelmed with a change in your work schedule? Or perhaps, you and your significant other have been arguing more than usual? If you’ve found yourself more stressed than usual, these factors can affect your sex drive.
If it happens to be one of the issues above, maybe you need to start implementing a few healthy changes in your day-to-day life. Although some stress is inevitable, try to find ways to unwind at the end of a long workday like exercising or meditating before bed. Another good way to destress is to take 10 minutes in the mornings or evenings to write in a journal. This will help you clear your mind and allow you to let go of any extra mental baggage.
2. Less Sleep
Think about whether you’ve been getting enough sleep. Have you noticed the number of hours you have in bed getting shorter? Or do you find yourself extremely restless when it comes to winding down for the evening?
Like stress, not getting enough sleep is another major contributor to a lower libido. Some ways to combat this would be to reduce screen time before bed, to try and relax your body and mind. Try reading a book instead! Otherwise, you could treat yourself to a nice hot bubble bath before bed – that will definitely relax the body and hopefully get you ready for sleep.
3. Medications
One of the major side effects to many different medications is a lower sex drive. From prescription pain killers and antihistamines to contraceptive pills and antidepressants, the list is endless.
If the dip in your sex drive has started affecting your relationship, it’s best to speak to your doctor to see whether there are any alternatives you can take – especially if this is a medication that you are required to take over a long-term period or indefinitely. Again, make sure to communicate your struggles with your significant other and see if there are any other things you can do together to achieve intimacy.
Losing interest in sexual intimacy is never easy, especially if you are a tactile person who considers physical touch an important aspect of closeness and building a relationship. Hopefully having an understanding of what you are going through as an individual can shed some light into why you have suddenly lost your buzz and can help you and your partner rediscover intimate moments in the bedroom.
